Necessity And Desire

Look, there are two things – necessity and desire. Necessity is always fulfilled but desire is never fulfilled. Kanyadaan (charity in form of giving daughter to in-laws in marriage) is necessary but there is no need to worry about it.
Wherever the daughter has to go, her engagement will be arranged. You have to work hard, but not to worry. Your rights is only to your duty, but not to fruit thereof . Making an effort towards Kanyaadaan is your work. However Kanyaadaan will certainly happen – this is not in your hands.When you are hungry, then there is necessity (aavashyaktaah) of food in stomach, but to want a specific flavor or a particular type of delicious food –this is a desire (kaamnaa). Necessity (aavashyaktaah) is fulfilled, but till date no one's desires (kaamnaa) has been fulfilled. So far it has not happened in anyone's life that all desires have been fulfilled. But the fulfillment of "necessities" (aavashyaktaah) are ordained. In this manner there is necessity and desire. Please listen to this with great concentration and attention and implement/imbibe in it.
I was not able to understand this for many years. I used to give discourses and gave these for many years, but the fact that "necessity" and "desire" are two separate – I understood this point very late. Such truths, were received with great harship. To understand it's essence has been difficult and it has taken a lot of time.
The reason I am sharing this with you is so that you may value and respect these points. There is no egotism in this, there is no greatness, nothing extraordinary, in these; if it had been then I would have known this beforehand. But it never occurred to thia mind. There had been many such knots, which were untied by Gita. But if you want to know, then you can know it very easily.
It is very easy and straightforward.What is "necessity" (aavashyaktaah) and "desire" (kaamnaa)? At the root, at the very essence the necessity (aavashyaktaah) is of Parmatma and desire (kaamnaa) is of world. This is the main essence. May we always live, may we be ever knowledgeable, may we be eternally happy – this is a necessity (aavashyaktaah) ; because this need of ours is actually of Existence-Conscious ness-Bliss- Absolute (Sat-Chit-Anand- Ghan) personified Parmatma. But the extent to which you consider the world as "necessary" (aavashyaktaah) , how much you want from it, it is all only "desires." When I grasped these two differences, then my mind was elated that today a thorn has been removed from inside!Necessity is something else, desire is something else.
In English I have heard `need' and `desire'- these two words. I have asked many educated people that what is the difference between these two words, but they were not able to point out the real difference. As I say that necessity is only of Paramatma and desire is only of world. But the educated Englishmen did not say it that clearly. Necessities are to be fulfilled; they can never be wiped out. The necessity of Paramatmatattva (realizing the Essential Truth, Essence of God) and our inadequacy in that regard, it can never be erased without attaining fulfillment – this is a law. If a law, a principle is broken then say so.

Jai SHri Ram

Love versus Lust

Worldly people due to their ignorance, do not understand the true nature of Love. They regard lust to be the same as Love.
Lust is seen in most beings, especially more so in evil people, devils, demons, fiends, animals etc. Only the liberated Souls are capable of true Love.
1. In lust both parties want to receive something from the other, while in Love, a devotee (lover) wants to offer everything to the Lord (Beloved).
2. In lust a person wants to satisfy his senses, while in Love he wants to serve the Lord (beloved), without any desire for personal gain (without wanting anything in return).
3. Lust is physical, while Love is spiritual, it is divine.
4. Lust involves delusion and pain, while Love is totally free from delusion and pain, and involves emancipation and infinite bliss.
5. In lust there is attachment and dependence, while in Love there isrelinquishment and independence.
6. Lust is selfish, while Love is selfless.
7. One who is lustful, becomes a slave to the object of lust, while Bhagwaan Himself becomes a slave to a devotee that is capable of Love.
8. Lust changes into insipidity, while love enhances every moment,intensifying into a blissful state.
9. Lust is born of need, i.e. out of something lacking, while Love sprouts from completeness and the lover (devotee) remains happy in the happiness of the beloved (God).
10. In lust there is desire to derive pleasure, while in Love a lover(devotee) wants to please the Beloved (Bhagwaan, Lord).
11. Lust leads to hell, while Love leads to the abode of God (the Beloved).12. In lust, the parties involved ever remain two, while in Love, the lover (devotee) and the Beloved (Lord) become one and the same.

Jai Shri Ram

is it the money that is great or are we great?

It is a very surprising thing that on getting wealth, we consider ourselves to be great! If we have become great due to wealth, is it the money that is great or are we great?
Without that wealth we would be small only! This money is something that you have earned. This wealth comes to you and then goes away. If it stays with you, then you go away.
It will definitely not stay with you. Similarly he that considers himself to be great due to his knowledge, abilities, position, entitlements etc, is also making a grave mistake.
In reality you yourself are so great, that it is from you that these thing have got their significance. It is because of you that the money has attained significance, it is because of you that the food has got meaning, it is because of you that clothes have a purpose. All the things in the world have attained significance because of you. But you on the other hand, think you are great because of all that you have – this is a mistake. To consider yourself great or superior because of all the things that you have acquired is a big mistake. If this mistake is wiped out, then equanimity will come automatically; because we are naturally and innately established in equanimity; It is not resulting from effort or skill. We are to perform actions only to get rid of the attachment to actions, not for the purpose of gaining anything.

Jai Shri Ram

Man alone is responsible for his own spiritual rise or downfall

A man must raise himself by his own effort. He must not degrade himself; for the Self is his own friend and the Self is also his own enemy.

"The point is that man alone is responsible for his own spiritual rise or downfall. No one else is. God has bestowed this human body, and with it, he has given all the necessary tools to attain salvation. Therefore, one does not need anyone else for one's salvation.Guru (spiritual guide), Saints and God, uplift the soul only after man himself has trust and faith in them. Only after man accepts them (Guru, Saints, God), only after man comes to them, and and only after man follows their directions. If man does not accept them, then how are they to do anything for man's salvation?

They simply cannot do anything. If you do not become a student, then what can a teacher do for you? Just like some other person can come and drop off a meal at your home, but the hunger must come from within. If there is no hunger within, than what use is there of delicious food preparations that are placed in front of you?

Guru, Saint and God are never non-existent. There have been many great Saints, Teachers, Gurus and Avatars (God's manifestations on Earth), but so far we have not attained salvation! It becomes clear from this, that we have not accepted them. Thus, in our rise or downfall, we alone are responsible. Those who believe that some one else is responsible for their rise or degradation they will never be elevated spiritually. They can never be benefited with this belief.In reality, man himself is his own Guru .Therefore discourses are for your own self. Knowing this, see faults in your own self and seek to remove them, instead of seeing faults in others.

Jai Shri Ram

Ye mat Samjhna mere Malik ,Maine Tughe Yaad Karna chod diya

teri yaad aati hai to ,ankho mai aaso aa jaate hai

isliye maine tughe yaad karna chod diya ,

par ye mat samjhna mere Malik

maine tughe Pyaar karna chod diya

tum mere the mere ho mere rahoge, jab tak 1 bhi saas baaki hai mugh mai ,

tab tak tum mere dil mai hi rahoge ..
Jai Shri Ram

In the war of love, he who loves more, looses

In the worldly struggles, he who possesses more strength is the winner, but in the war of love, he who loves more, looses. The son says to the mother, "I won't come to your lap." But the mother insists, "Come, come, O my dear child!" This affection in the mother has really emanated from God. God also is in need of His devotee.
The concern that Bhagwaan has for the world, that much the world does not have for Bhagwaan. The child is not so much concerned about his mother as the mother is about the child. The child while nursing and suckling bites the mother's breast with his teeth, but even then she does not get angry. If she becomes angry, then can the child take it? The mother is only showering her blessings and mercy upon the child. Similarly, Bhagwaan is our mother for infinite births. Bhagwaan cannot neglect the devotee.
He considers the devotee as His crest-jewel – "Mein to hu bhagatanko das, bhagat mere mukutamani" – "I am only the servant of the devotee and the devotee is my crest-jewel. "
Bhagwaan ever remains ready to do work for his devotees. Just as the child can't live without his mother and the mother can't live without the child, similarly a devotee cannot live without Bhagwaan and Bhagwaan cannot live without the devotee.

Jai Shri Ram

No Harm in Chanting Incorrectly If you Love God.

Jai Shri Ram

Some people could feel that they do not know the correct pronunciation, and so do not want to chant incorrectly.but there is no harm in chanting incorrectly as well with out knowing the correct meaning.
for example : mother to whom a child goes and asks for an orange. The child does not know how to pronounce the word "orange", and so asks for "ange". The mother does not turn away the child and does not refuse to give the child the orange just because the child does not know how to pronounce the word.
It is the spirit or bhava that matters, and so as long as one chants the name of God withsincerity, considerations such as not knowing the meaning, not knowing the pronunciation, etc., do not matter, and God who is the Mother of all of us will confer His blessings on us.

jai shri ram